The Life-Changing Magic Of Not Giving A F**k
I mean, things were never awful, but a few weeks ago I was struggling a little bit behind the scenes. Ok, don’t get me wrong, not life wise but blog related. Actually, I was just living in the now, reading a lot offline, not carrying about incoming messages and calls. And god, this felt so good. It’s kinda freeing when you don’t feel that addicted to your electronical devices but rather prefer to go outside, chat with friends, read a book, do handicrafts or just look closer into yourself and your environment. I spoke to many beaufitul creative minds lately and basically got inspired for lot of different things. Not only that, but just living in the day and not stressing about my agenda had brought up lots of probably surprising chances I never thought of.
So the reason on here for my absence on here, was partly a lack of motivation to go online, lack of right words to put my thoughts down and lastly also the absence of my dear photographer (I miss you, Julien…). Nonetheless, I have backed up about 30 half written posts, however never felt right to publish any… Still, I am so happy to have this virtual space where I share my passions with you guys. And furthermore your support is so heart-warming that it keeps me going 🙂 But finally I want to come to the actual topic – The book I’ve been reading and probably has/will have a big impact on my life – highly recommended!!
Do you remember a time when you didn’t care what people thought of you? When you did something because you were dared to, without worrying what others would think of you? When you could walk into a room full of people and shrug as they turned around to look at you? Some of us will remember these times, but for most of us, we’ve always cared what people think. I don’t know whether it’s solely an age thing, but most people in their twenties are discovering themselves, finding their way in the world, figuring out who they vote for and who their true friends are – and that’s why we spend so much time worrying what others think. So, what if a book could free you of those thoughts and fears? Here we go with a short review and hopefully you feel inspired to read more about it!
Enter: The Life-Changing Magic Of Not Giving A F**k by Sarah Knight.
SORRY, NOT SORRY
At first, Sarah teaches you to take an ‘inventory’ of your mental ‘barn’ (kind of like Sherlock Holmes’s mind palace) and list all the things you are supposed to give a f**k about. This is the panic attack inducing stage because suddenly you start thinking about birthdays, bikini bodies, ex-friends, ex-boyfriends, work, objects, plans, holidays, etc. Your head will spin. She says to begin with ‘Things’ as they are inanimate and stop caring about the things you can’t control!
MAKE YOUR F**K LIST
Sounds rude, but it’s so cathartic to get a pen and write down everything you do care about but don’t think you should, and everything you resent spending so much time thinking about. The book helps you to breach those tricky areas like family and friends in a controlled way by going through each category in your life from objects to work. Sarah shares her personal list, which contains ‘Passwords’ and ‘Calculus’ as well as ‘Taylor Swift’ and ‘Feigning sincerity’. Creating a list is so fun.
START WITH WHAT AFFECTS YOU
Sarah says that you should do things like ‘hanging up on a telemarketer’ or ‘throwing on a baseball cap to meet the plumber at 07:00 a.m. instead of getting up two hours early to shower and blow-dry your hair’. She gets us. Start with the things that don’t directly affect others before you start confronting other people’s emotions. Sarah says ‘Not hurting people’s feelings and not getting caught in a lie is the purest form of NotSorry. You have nothing to agonize or apologize for.’ So there!
STOP CARING IF YOU’RE LIKED
I think it all boils down to being liked. A toughie, it’s something I struggle with personally. But Sarah says not giving a f**k doesn’t make you rude or unlikeable, in fact, you can stop going to events you don’t want to and stop thinking about things that waste your energy and still be polite and likable. ‘…the simplest act of not giving a f**k is an overall improvement to your physical and emotional health.’
Have you read the book? Let us know what you think about freeing yourself from giving a f**k! If you don’t have any plans for the weekend (or it’s rainy as here… Go on and read this awesome lecture 🙂