Life is not about looking back and wishing that today were the same as the past. Life is about moving on, accepting changes and looking forward to what makes you stronger and more complete. It is never to late to create a life and never to late to change one.
Hello my dear readers!
It’s already some time now that I took the decision and booked a longer trip abroad. So let me give you a tiny hint. Since a few years I am practicing Yoga on a daily basis and I think it helped me to grow and develop as a person. I am much more aware of my mind and my body. Nonetheless, the years of malnutrition and selfhate have left their marks. But since leaving the professional figure skating community and practicing Yoga I started to overcome personal struggles and learn more about myself. I think that many women struggle a lot with themselves in a certain way during their teenage years… Did you so too?
Pressure. A lot of people feel it these days. We want to do everything, all at once, and get it done as perfect as possible. We always want more, better, nicer, bigger. We want to do it all that’s why we’re all super busy. All our calendars are fully booked with appointments and no time is left to think about ourselves and our thoughts. We are always distracted and concerned about other things. The bar is set really high when it comes to being successful. We compare ourselves to others. We want to work hard, work out, be social, eat healthy, party and have a relationship and be happy. We are very competitive and constantly looking for more, because anything is possible. Everything seems like it can be made, so perfection can be created as well. We compare ourselves to others who always seem to do better. And if we don’t achieve, we feel bad about ourselves, or guilty.
That’s one of the downsides to wanting it all. Feeling like you’ve failed if you don’t have lots of success in every aspect of life. It can cause a lot of stress and pressure, and I feel like our generation asks way too much of themselves. Being a perfectionist has it’s downsides as well. Being one, you’ll find it hard to take advice from others and will want to do everything yourself. You’ll think in terms of ‘I have to’ instead of ‘I can’.
I personally think we should aim for mediocracy sometimes. Be less hard to ourselves. Don’t put the pressure on ourselves of wanting it all and wanting it now. The art of being good enough, because nowadays hardly anything is good enough. I used to put a lot of pressure on myself wanting to succeed in all areas of life. I am learning to let that go, and think of myself as good enough. But still my comeptition focused mindset is not always easy to trick. But it gave me a lot of peace of mind, and took away a lot of stress.
Closing from the initial sentences… In less than a month I am heading to the other side of the world and will be committing all my focus to a new direction. I am really looking forward to practice and study Yoga more professionally. And who knows what will happen or where it will lead me to.
I just know one thing: I want to create my live and move on, learning to accept myself and feeling more complete. Good enough is the new perfect!
Do you have any life-changing experiences? Or what helped you to feel stronger?
photos by Julien