“We are all just actors trying to control and manage our public image, we act based on how others might see us.”
― Erving Goffman
Have you ever noticed that you behave differently with your friends, your family, at a party or at work with your colleagues? In some situations you felt more like the ‚real‘ you and in others you were acting like a stranger. And do you feel that the imagine on of you on Social Media corresponds not 100% the reality? Why is this so? And why do we strive to wear different masques or faces depending with whom we interact?
There are many ways that people can influence our behavior, but perhaps one of the most important is that the presence of others seems to set up expectations. We do not expect people to behave randomly but to behave in certain ways in particular situations. Each social establishment entails its own particular set of expectations about the “appropriate” way to behave. Such expectations can vary from group to group or situation to situation.
One way in which these expectations become apparent is when we look at the roles that people play in society. Social roles are the part people play as members of a social group. With each social role you adopt, your behavior changes to fit the expectations both you and others have of that role. As Goffman describes our behavior with a stage where we act according to the intended manuscript. It’s a role that we take in order to achieve the impression we want to have on other people. Therefore the created identity helps us to stimulate our behavior and actions.
Social Media in itself intensifies the divergence of the different roles we take. For Instagram we try to capture the perfect photo of our food, the most beautiful travel destinations or a selfie with perfect make up and the latest designer clothes (you get me). People just should see what we want them to see. We polish our outer appearance but do not want anyone to know the effort it took to reach that self-image (#nomakeup #wokeuplikethis). Is this only a Fake Face? Or does it still reveal something of our true self?
My honest note for last.
These pictures have been taken before Bali. At the moment I am in my last preparations for London and therefore also due to the cooler temperatures not anymore in the same summer mood 😉
What do you think about the different faces or roles you play depending on the situation or the people you interact? Do you want to show also only your „perfect“ side online?
Let me know!