“There are no wrong turnings. Only paths we had not known we were meant to walk.” ― Guy Gavriel Kay
If you’re in your 20s or even 30s, you might feel a lot of uncertainty all the time — you aren’t sure what your life purpose is, or your uncertain about what path you should take in life.
This is normal.
“We all want to know what our driving ambitions should be in life.
We all want to have a certain life purpose.
We all want to feel we’re on the right path.
We all want to perform well at our habits, our routines, our productivity.
We all want to feel more confident, and perfect what we are doing.”
Striving all the time towards confidence and certainty – This is the struggle.
Do you know what?! No one is free from struggling. You can even look up to the most successful people, for example Obama, Merkel or Adele. Do you think they have figured out their lives? Do you believe they are certain and perfect? Oh no, far from that. I think there is no one (at least if you are not enlightened?) who feels certainty about his or her path or purpose of life.
Realize that it’s all uncertainty
Are you getting the most of life or are you all the time looking jealously at other people’s life on Social Media? Are you uncertain about your future and feeling anxiety? When you’re feeling bad about yourself, it’s because of uncertainty or whether you’re a good and disciplined person. To sum up: It’s all uncertainty.
Realize that none of us likes uncertainty
We all feel uncertain, everyday day, and we all struggle with it. Some were lucky growing up more comfortably but in the end we try to find certainty in some way – with distraction, food, shopping etc.
Notice when you’re feeling it
Being aware of this feeling of uncertainty is actually an important skill to develop. You start feeling awareness when uncertainty arises, so you can ask yourself why? See if you can tell what you’re being uncertain about (is it anxiety, fear, self-doubt, anger…?)
Stay with it
This uncertainty you’re feeling is unpleasant. That’s perfectly OK, perfectly normal. Don’t run from it. Instead, stay with this uncomfortable, unappealing uncertainty. It’s here in you, a part of this moment, a part of you but not the whole of you. Just stay, stay.
Turn to the moment and find the beauty
After staying with the uncertainty for a while, realize that you’re trying to know the unknowable. You can’t know what the perfect path will be, you can’t know what the perfect you should be, you can’t know what your purpose in life is until it starts to uncover itself. Focus on the present moment and try to make the most of it. Feel the energy and find the beauty in the space around you. Pay attention to the objects, nature, light, people, sounds and movement around you. This is the practice. It isn’t easy. It isn’t certain. But it is beautiful.
“I wanted a perfect ending. Now I’ve learned, the hard way, that some poems don’t rhyme, and some stories don’t have a clear beginning, middle, and end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what’s going to happen next.
― Gilda Radner